Okay, here's the situation...-hope you're prepared- :cool:
There's this girl I like(let's say...Tiffany). I have already told her how much I like her and wanted to see if our relationship can progress into a dating one.(this wasn't too long ago) However, she replied that she doesn't. I respect her reply and don't mind it. But the way she acts now makes it really complicated for me and confusing.
I've talked to her friends whom i know well also. Most of them tell me "Don't". Basically, don't waste my time and move on and don't like her. They would tell me that she is not interested. But...they have no idea, the stuff Tiffany says makes it sound like she is interested. It may just be all my imagination...but i feel like I should still "stick around" and continue talking even though it is surprisingly hard because of my feelings for her.
Here's some background information. Tiffany is the "really social" type of girl. She likes to talk in class and always is talking... I suppose, the flirty type also. She is really casual with a lot of the guys. She is really intelligent, but seems like she doesn't know what she is doing to me even though she supposedly does.
The stuff she says to me are always making me think. She would always message me first. She would tell me how bored she is and whatnot. I mean, it may just seem like she is really just bored...but dang, she must be bored all the time. O.O haha. My older sis told me that a girl really thinks about messaging first to the guy and it may seem Tiffany may like me. But, I don't really want to think of it that way. Tiffany messages me all the time even after my/her friends told her she should stop. This is why i am confused. We would talk all the time about stuff. It's just weird and i can't really figure her out. I have told her i liked her a while back. But she may think that i don't anymore. BUT, you know...she knows i "did" like her and she continues to keep talking with me.
I try to keep it down-low when i talk with her because i can get...umm "too caring" and "involved" i guess. I would really appreciate it if anyone can help me out here because i am getting really...uhh, annoyed. lol
Additionally, Tiffany tells me things that are not really things "friends" would normally talk about. You know...it would be stuff that a "best friend" or a couple would talk about.
What's for better or worse, her locker is even close to mine and of course we have some classes together. So i would always be bumping into her, and thus, making me feel really awkward being around her and talking. I feel that it's just all me wanting this so bad that i am considering that something can happen.
Thanks for your time in reading this and really appreciate and am grateful if you would reply.
p.s- Just a thought, but i know it isn't just me that feels this way. When you see people out there who are real jerks and are given those chances. Just really would like it if i am given a chance. A chance to date a person you really like and able to prove yourself. I hate it when i see girls cry because of guys breaking their hearts and treating them with disrespect and no care at all. I would listen to all my friend's relationships and how they are being mistreated. No care at all from their boyfriends and no respect. I just hate it.
Sorry to be so deep and personal but you know... it's something i wanted to say and let out.
Pretty long...lol, my bad :X
So if anyone can give me heads up, thanks a lot.
wait so she told you she doesn't want to date, but now she's acting like she likes you... hm, maybe she just wasn't ready then if she never said she doesn't like you in that way. or maybe she denied it without thinking, because she was unsure.
it sounds like you're a real gentleman. keep it up, it can't hurt, but then again, it won't help change her feelings if she really doesn't feel the same way.
Yeah man, I think I am just going to go with the flow and whatever happens, happens. Just wanted to post this and read other's outlook on this. Thanks for the reply.
Others are welcome to let me know what's up because...i am pretty curious.
does she consider you one of her really 'close' friends?
..okay moving past big burger here...
i know your situation all too well Justaguy..seriously. you and me are almost exactly alike, but sadly, these things cant always be realized to what you hope they can be. thats honest. im sorry if it sounds negative. its true though, and you never want to assume a girl likes you, cuz that just complicates things and influences your thinking. sorry, but id tone down just a bit, stay on the safe side..only because these things are never sure
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Music4Life: I don't think she would consider me as a close friend, but then again i can be wrong.
Drummer: Yeah man, i appreciate it. I know what you're saying. Can't try to expect too much from the situation. I am going to try and take your advice with toning down a bit. It's going to be tough, but I am going to try to just keep it down low and whatever's going to happen from there.
yeah dude im sorry, its never easy having to tone down. it just makes things easier on yourself in the long run though, if you take a fall its easier to fall off a stool then a rooftop.
if the bad happens, youll feel bad the day it happens no matter what, but youll recover a LOT faster. seriously, i decided to tone down on a girl recently, and i bounced back in a day. i dont know how, really i dont, but that day was great for some reason and i felt happy, the days that followed were just as easy also. in short, you dont want to set yourself up for a high fall.
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Haha yeah man, don't worry, i'm not the type of guy to be all depressed and go beat myself. I take hardships and lessons the hard way or the easy way and i won't run from them.
I love the way you said about falling off a stool rather than a rooftop. Haha, really genuine man. Thanks for your advice.
Need to not really concern myself with her and just worry about myself. I should just worry about myself and while i am, maybe there'll be a girl that will walk into my life again. Things will happen and everything will all work out. Hope you're doing well too. Hang in there.
thanks dude, its no problem, good thing youre not emo! haha, jk..
but yeah, this is just from experience and evaluation. and, youve got the right idea, cuz like i said, if you worry alot about a girl who -might not- like you, then you devote alot of thought to her, and that creates the chance youll walk out of the experience feeling bad if things go south.
if you dont think about her, things are easier and you have more time to focus on other things and other people. so in all, its best to keep on going, because its better to take the freeway instead of unnecessary backroads. the freeway keeps you going, and whenever you see a point of interest, you can take the next exit but if you dwell on the back roads, theres a whole bunch of twists and turns, poorly maintained roads, and plus you always run into those weird little towns with a population of 100 on the back roads. no one likes those, and they take away time, you get what im saying?
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