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chaos_reigns's picture
Joined: Mar 2009
Thoughts on Sex?

I was wondering what everyones opinion on sex was, namely premaritial sex. Do you support the traditional religious view (i.e. no sex before marriage) or do you accept that sex does not have to be withheld until marriage? or any view in between? I just wonder what most people think. I feel like the premiscuity of teens is overexaggerated in the media. Maybe it's just where I live and people just aren't as open about it. I mean, I'm fine with premaritial sex (and guilty of it). I just wonder what all the hubub is about. I want to see all different opinions :D

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lagata1992's picture
Joined: Mar 2009

I think thats it's okay be sexually active before marrige but with the person you konw for sure you're going to be with. But I think that waiting till marrige can be good because you don't have to worry about the consequence that everybody knows about. It depends on people belife too.In my religion, we are told that we should wait to be sexually active til marriage and be pure.

MikeGaeta's picture
Joined: Sep 2008

I'll start off by saying that I know we are all teenagers and we all have hormones, haha. That does not, however, justify that sexual intercourse is totally okay, in my opinion. I personally would wait until marriage, as hard as that would be (I can confidently speak for a lot of us), because if we didn't, we would lose its sacredness. Just having sex with someone, even once, and even if it is just "the closest thing to sex," could potentially lead us down a road towards addiction and no self-control. If you repeat an act over and over, you become used to it; it loses its effect. Logically, we need more concentrated amounts and more frequently. If we disregard waiting until marriage, we would potentially turn a sacred unity of two people into a mere physical act of please in oneself. Also, in addition to the risk of contracting STDs [sexually transmitted diseases] and AIDS [acquired immunodeficiency syndrome] or getting pregnant, premarital sex leads to emotional distress, distrust, regret, and emptiness. That's because sex connects two people in body and spirit; it's impossible to separate the two. Premarital sex always comes with consequences.

yasemin's picture
Joined: Jun 2009

Personally, I'm not a strong believer in religion what so ever, which is pretty ironic because I come from an extremely religious family. Honestly, teens are going to do what they please.. Telling us "NO, it's bad" is just going to make it worse. People look down upon premarital sex only due their religion. They were taught that it was the sinful thing to do. Wanting to have sex is human nature and I don't think there is anything wrong with it if you have strong feelings for your partner.
I mean, the Bible, Koran, etc, say that drinking is sinful as well, but look at all the people that do it. As our generation progresses, religion doesn't come into effect or mind as it use to.

devilsfavoriteangel's picture
Joined: Oct 2007

I wasn't raised in a religious household however my parents are fairly conservative. Personally I think it is truly a matter of personal decisions. My only caveat would be that you understand the possible consequences and are willing to deal with them.
I also believe that most teens are too young to handle the emotional and other consequences that come along with having had sex.
But at the same time, I don't believe that having premarital sex is necessarily wrong, it depends on your beliefs and reasons.
I think what the adults should be teaching teens is that sex isn't just a physical act, it comes with a lot of emotions and maturity is needed to handle with those emotions.

yasemin's picture
Joined: Jun 2009

Nicely put. I completely agree.

katie.lynn11's picture
Joined: Feb 2010

I believe its your choice. No one person can tell you what is or what isn't right.

Personally i dont thinkn sex before marriage is a big deal.. even though i was raised in an overtly religious household. I think it all goes back to how personally mature and responsible you view yourself to be. There is alot of risks and things that go along with sex and if you can handle that then you have that choice.


Emyblossom93's picture
Joined: Nov 2011

I believe it is all personal choice. I mean, some prefer to wait until marraige for their own reasons (Whether because of religion, conservativeness, or whatever other reason) while others believe in the whole Carpe Diem idea of "siezing the day" and enjoying the time you have while you can.

Nobody can tell you what you want or what's right for you and I don't believe that just because you have premarital sex means you're a floozy or anything, or that saving yourself makes you a prude, I really, really hate those stereotypes. There are tons of different opinions on the matter (religious, cultural, political, etc.) and they all tell you different ideas on it. So, in my opinion the only one opinion that matters is YOURS.

I'm not saying go out and go crazy, that's when problems do arise (read: pregnancy, diseases, injuries) however, do let narrow-minded stereotypes make you feel enclosed in only one possibility. If you think you are ready (maturally (?), emotionally, physically--and I say that one with extra emphasis, a girls body usually isn't mature enough physically to handle sex before the age of about 16 or 17, though I won't go into nasty details here) then go ahead and make your decision -- just be ready for the consequences.

My main point on having sex is to NOT let the other person pressure you into, that's the worst way I can imagine to have sex -- not for yourself or because you want it, but because the other person wants it. Do it because it'll make YOU happy, bring YOU joy!! (And if the other person won't stop, hand him your cellphone and tell him, "Fine, I'll have sex with you as long as you call my Dad and tell him. If he OK's it, we're good to go", Trust me, works every time ;P)

SO, yeah, there's my rant on that....wow, wrote alot. Sorry. Hope that helped a little.

p.s. I feel like I should mention that I fit in with the crowd of wait 'till marraige folk, though not because my dad said to when i was 8, or because I'm religious (though I am), not because my Sex Ed teacher said to, but because I want to. I might not even wait till marriage, but I'm not going to give it away to the first guy that comes along. When I'm raedy I'll do it, no two ways about it....:D

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zellet132's picture
Joined: Jun 2012

It's ok as long as both partners act responsible for any consequences that go with it.

Slomo's picture
Joined: Aug 2012

I'm a teen now and I don't live in a religious household, and I believe it is everybody's personal choice. Personally, I want to wait till after marrige because A) it's more special and B) it is much easier to deal with the consequences. But it also depends on how old you are. If I'm 35 and still not married, I think that it would be a lot easier to decide whether or not you wanted to because you are wiser than in college.

Anyway, that's my two cents.

danilovegood's picture
Joined: Aug 2012

I don't disagree with premarital sex, but I think I'd like to wait until I get married, so it's really with someone I love. Sex should be talked about more and not be such a "shush-shush" topic. Schools that don't allow proper sex education because it's "awkward" or "shameful" are ridiculous.


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