Ok, This may sound mega-lame and "uncool" for lack of a better word, but there are a few girls that i really like, and I'm not sure at all who or how to ask out. It's also kinda complicated, so please bear with me.
The first girl I've known since junior high and we were friends, but when we got into high school, we kinda grew apart because we were both really busy and had different classes, but now we have a class together again and we talk some, and I've never really been sure if she liked me or not. I also have her AIM from when we were friends. I've asked her if she wanted to see a movie once or twice before, and she said she was too busy, and guess I took that as a no to going out or whatever.
The second one is in the same class as the first one, and we also talk a little, and I've asked a guy friend of hers if shes seeing anyone, and said I liked her. We went to the same private school together, so we kinda have some history, and I don't know if she likes me or if shes just flirty with everyone.
The third one sits at my lunch table and we talk alot,and she laughs at EVERYTHING I seem to say. But the friend of the second girl also sits at that table, and I'm not sure if it would look really bad if I asked this girl out.
The fourth one is in 2 of my classes and we kinda talk a little, and we joke around and stuff some times, but she talks about this other guy a lot, one I'm not on good terms with, and it sounds like they hang out alot. Im not sure if she likes him, me, or what. But this girl is really outgoing, and I like that. (We also take AP Bio together and I could forsee some interesting situations if we went out, like studying anatomy;), for example... (sorry:o))
My main problem with all of them is I can never get any of them by themselves to ask them out. Girl "#3" I might be able to work something out, b/c of lunch lines, but for the rest, they tend to stick with their friends and move straight from class to class. It would be a lot easier if I didn't have to ask them out infront of other people.
Sorry for the wall of text, but I'm getting kinda desperate, and Ring Dance is coming soon, and people have started asking me who I'm going with and trying to set me up with random people I don't know. I've also never *really* had a girlfriend before, so I'm very new to this. (I know, im so lame!!!:()
First of all, you're not lame. There are thousands (maybe even millions) of people who haven't been in relationships before. You don't HAVE to be in one, and you're not "uncool" if you don't have a boy/girlfriend.
Second, especially with girl #3, see how they act around other people. Maybe that girl just laughs a lot. I guess my point is, be careful because it seems like you're pretty good friends with all of them. If you can't choose between 4 different people, then maybe you should re-think this whole having a girlfriend thing.
You said your main problem was asking one of them out...and if you can't get them alone, you could aim/text her. You could also do it in some cute romantic way, like dropping a note in her locker or something.
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Thank you, girl #3 only laughs at what I say, and as much as I'd like to think so, I'm not that funny. She also doesn't act that way around other people. Also, I only know the aim/number of girl #1.
Thank you again. I don't know anyoneon a personal enough basis to share this kind of stuff with. I guess guys are just like that.
Hey Zeekyt dear, I'm sorry about the whole square situation...but you can always joke about the whole thing to them and see how each of them react...it does sound that you and girl #3 are alot closer than you and the other 3 girls though...and like Megs said...you're not lame, I mean...I think it's pretty cute that you're kinda shy of publicizing your feelings to 4 girls at the same time. ^_^
If the joking conversational stuff doesn't work, feel free to hit me up and I'll try to find more ways for you to talk to them without getting hurt or something like that okk? good luck and you know where to hit me up if you need me...take care, my dearest.
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Gah, I also just noticed today that girl #4 is looking at me alot in class. If I look in her direction, she immediately looks away.
Another problem I'm also having is really deciding who to ask out, whenever I see one of them, I think "ok, I'm gonna ask her out" but then I see or think about one of the others and I go, "welll...I'm not so sure... Ill ask her out."
hmm...if it works out for you...you should try to get to know all four of them again..or if you just met then get to know her more...cause it seems that you like #3 and #4 the most cause they're the ones that give some hint that they may like you back..
Perhaps...you can also try it out with one of them and see how that goes..I mean, if you stay on the sidelines, then you'll never know wassup about each of the girls since you're always thinking and chilling with all 4 girls, you know what I mean?
If not, just call on me again. okk? Take care and good luck.
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I was already kinda thinking that. Thank you for helping me figure that out for sure.
LOL. I am the most indecisive person on the planet... Who should I ask out between the two of them?
Well, you can get even closer to the girl that you're most comfortable with right now. That would be best, but you can always take some time to get to know the other girl more as well...which ever you wanna do, my dear...and believe me...you may be indecisive, but I don't think you're the MOST indecisive person in the world...I wouldn't want you to get hurt and make a wrong decision anyway.
Hope all works out well. ^_^ Good Luck, Zeekyt dear. (I just noticed I keep saying dear!! LOL. sorry...)
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Ok, I may wana ask out girl #4, but again, I'm retarded and I don't know how to go about it.
We are in AP English and AP Bio together, then we have the same lunch after that. In Ap English, if we aren't busy working etc, then she is talking with a bunch of people there, and we sit at the opposite ends of the classroom. In AP Bio we sit 2 chairs away, but she is always talking to her friend there. Same thing in lunch, we sit a table away, but always talking to her friend.
How could I get a moment alone with her to ask her out? I could get the courage to do it, but I kinda have a problem with "stage fright" and can't expose myself like that infront of "other" people. Any ideas?
Zeekyt;74915 wrote:Thank you, girl #3 only laughs at what I say, and as much as I'd like to think so, I'm not that funny. She also doesn't act that way around other people. Also, I only know the aim/number of girl #1.
Thank you again. I don't know anyoneon a personal enough basis to share this kind of stuff with. I guess guys are just like that.
yo looks like that this girl#3 really likes you in the first place.. :) She sounds to be the best candidate out of the other 3 as well.. Maybe the others just like you as a friend?
Yea, thats one of my problems, they are all so hard to read. Whenever I look in #2,3,or 4's ( just noticed #2 doing this too), they like immediateley look away, and whenever I talk with one of them, they take like a whole different attitude, like they are trying to really listen to anything I say. I don't know, I may be imagining this.
But My emotions are so damned confusing, every day I like one more than I like the others.
But I've actually narrowed it down to #s 2,3, and 4. I think ill just stay friends with #1. This is sooo frustrating, they are all good-looking, so I know that if I don't hurryup they'll be asked out by someone else. I wish there was someone who actually knew all 3 girls really well and could help me with this. >.<
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