So, I moved from Tennessee to California, and I kept the same boyfriend that I had in Tennessee. He broke up with me a week before my birthday, and still expects me to tell him I love him. Don't get me wrong, I still love him to pieces, and I still want to try and date again when I go back to Tennessee for college. But the other side of me says "No! Don't date him!" And I don't know what to do. Please help?!
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Honestly, I'd say if you find your relationship (or lack there of) is holding you back in anyway, I'd move on. I don't mean just in terms of dating other people, but just in terms of experiencing life in general. Do you find yourself missing out on some of the fun things high school has to offer because you'd feel guilty, e.g. prom, home coming, parties, etc.? I had a friend in college who was in a long distance relationship his freshman year. I didn't even meet him until sophomore year because he stayed in his dorm and didn't go out at all. Looking back he says he felt as though he missed out on a full year of college because of that relationship.
Not sure if any of that made sense, but hope it helped in some way, shape or form.
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In my opinion, dating around is so much fun. We are young and in school, that already adds a lot of burden on our shoulders. If this isn't the right guy just let it go. There's a million of hot, fun, outgoing, smart guys out there and you shouldn't let this one hold you back on what is out there. My modo "on to the next one" and I don't mean you have to be anything with other guys like friends with benefits or any of that. Just go out and have a good time: catch a movie, go to the beach, go bowling. Idk just go out and have fun. I believe in fate and your prince charming will sweep you off your feet when the time is right and when it is you'll be glad you went out and had fun and weren't stuck on one ex boyfriend. Take it from me who I thought I was going to marry my freshman boyfriend and now I'm a senior and happier than ever dating and waiting to go to an out-of-state college to see what more is out their than where I've been living for far too long lol. Go out and laugh out loud and meet tons of cute guys. (: Hope this helps.
I'd say give it a try. Long distance relationships are UBER hard, and nearly impossible to maintain. The breakup could have been caused by stress over that. If you aren't comfortable with him when you get back to TN, don't date. But don't shoot it down before you find out.
At different times I tried to follow the different counsel. I swore off dating altogether, I attempted courting (which felt a lot like dating), and finally I considered the online option. While I was trying to figure it all out, I met the man of my dreams at a ministry conference, and we eventually married.