If you are reading this and indeed have divorced parents, they are in the process or are even a parent thinking of divorce, just remember that you are not alone. I was surprised I month ago when I was hanging out with some new friends and the topic of divorce came up. Half of the kids had divorced parents. Usually its me and a few others, but there really is more divorces than what it seems. In my net of close friends, I am however the only one with divorced parents. As a kid it should be nothing to be ashamed of, but it is still hard to talk about. This blog is not a guide how not to get a divorce, but how to handle it. In my case I found out that they were getting a divorce about a month before they told me. I do not know how it feels to be told without knowing, but it was very strange I know what your parent was about to say.
1.My first step to help you out is to find a friend and confide your situation. From experience, I would say that talking about a problem just makes it seem less daunting. In addition, your friends will sympathize with you and let you talk about whats going on. This will ease some pain and maybe even provide some advice.
2.The next step I would suggest is to find an outlet for some of your feelings. If a sport does not work for you, a creative outlet works great. Along with sports, I paint and produce videos for youtube. If you can find something like this then it will take you mind off what is happening and put your emotions on the field or on paper.
3.This step is very important and it is not to get angry. Anger will make you feel worse and projects your feelings on to others--making them angry. Do not what so ever try and blame anyone, especially yourself. Your parents have their reasons for splitting and that is their business, and if they feel they want to tell you as a family then it is good to talk.
4.Finally, if you now live in two different houses, here are some good tips--make sure you do not forget any school related things at the house your not at. If you have a car then keeping some spare clothes or whatever you need has helped me out loads.
No matter what bed you are sleeping in one night and a different the next, remember that your parents love you, your friends love you and that you are not alone when facing a divorce.
