Wall of text. I really would appreciate it if someone could help me with my situation.
Here is my situation. There is this girl that I liked since September. She is a senior and I am a junior. I never had the chance to ask her out, because someone asked her out in October. I waited so that is what I got. I was really in to her and when she got asked out, it hit me really hard. She was the first person that I ever felt this strongly about. After some time, I thought that it was just infatuation or something so I kinda got over her. However, while she dated that guy, we became even closer friends and shared really intimate stuff. I started to like her a whole lot more than I did back in September. She just broke up with that guy one month ago, and my chance was right in front of me. I then remebered that prom was rolling around, and I wouldn't be able to go to it cause my parents are really anal about relationships. They don't want me hanging around girls because of a strange, yet plausible reason. The story pretty much is that my dad's previous person didn't want him to study, but she wanted him to make money for her. Anyway, he thinks that I might get used or get into a bad situation (premarital sex). I was planning on asking her out after prom (May) because I get my license then, and being with her would be easier. However, the ex came back into the picture starting 1 week ago and started to hang out with her again. I mean,he went to her house at 11 pm just to "chill" for an hour. He is always around her at school, and it seems like he isnt giving up. I really would like to talk with her, but he is always there, and if I tried to sit down with them,it would only be awkward. Also, my "depression" is starting tokick back in just cause they are spending soo much time together. Oh one more thing, today, she was supposed to come over so that we could study for a class, but that guy asked to go to her house for her mom to tutor him in math so she won't be coming over...I amr eally sad and I don't know how to address the situation. Thanks for whoever read that all. I would really appreciate some help.
damn...dude thats sounds like an intensly emotionally grating situation. and that guy the girl you like is with, hes a dick. ive been in similar situations before, minus the part with the parents.
this is really tough though. because as far as this other dude goes, hes mostly likely a factor you have little or no influence over, so eliminate that. you can however talk to the girl. i understand how hes ALWAYS there, but there has to be one time, or at least one lucky break youll get where hes not there. talk to her, tell her everything. its not gonna be easy, but you just gotta go in, strangle the fear, and tell her everything.
thats your best bet, because if you and this girl got really close, she'll listen.
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The thing is that she already knows that I like her. She kinda squirmed it out of me back in october, and once in January. I don't really know what to do. I really would like toa sk her out, but waiting would be moer convenient for me. But then again, she might get back with her ex or someone else adn that would just suck...
yeah, just wait for her to break up with that guy, then wait 3 days, then talk to her. if she knows all this she might just be confused.
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So the boy started to back off and I guess I am in the clear. However, while we were chatting, I was talking about introducing her to my parents because I tell them alot about her. So we started talking and I was like "You can show my parents that not all girls are like teh girls in the movies (kissing left and right, getting drunk, you know) She said that "your parents wouldn't like a crazy white girl like me" and I said sure they would. Just act normally and we can keep your crazyness to ourselves. She then was like "Awesome! I get to show your parents how awesome girls are. Maybe after meeting me, they will let you date crazy white girls!" I was just wondering what she meant by this statement. Was she referring to herself, as in she wants us to date, or was it just a spur of the moment kind of thing?
Edit: My mistake,he didn't start to lay off...He is actually trying harder to I guess flirt with her. He actually took something of hers, and she asked for it back. He said no, so she said that she would punch him. He then said that he would wrestle her for it...(all this was playful) All of his antics are really pissing me off just because she said no, but he doesn't take it for an answer.
I think you should go for it; it's now or never, and she's probably waiting for you to man up and ask her out. Screw your parents, they obviously don't understand that you won't end up exactly like your dad or whatever. Keep it on the down-low if possible, but if you let them know explain that you understand the risks and all that bullshit.
As for the dude, ignore him. But make sure you make your move quick so he can't get a chance to get close to her again.
yeah what durandal said is pretty much true. doing it is whats the hard part.
but if you can get past that, then your pretty much good.
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Updated situation:
Yesterday, I asked her if she wanted to go to toe movies with me and get dinner afterwards this weekend on email. She said
Ok, sounds like fun. One question though. Is this a friend thing or a date one?
I didn't really know how to respond so I said:
Would it matter? It is a friend thing though in case you are dying to know. =)
She then replied wiht
It would make a slight difference. I am glad that it is a friend thing cause I wouldn't want our great friendship to be ruined, my bestest friend.
She calls me her bestest friend quite a bit. Anyway, any opinions? It seemes like she isn't interested....
yikes dude..................ouch..i really dont know how to say this, but you mightve landed yourself in
-THE FRIEND ZONE-
i hope that didnt come out sounding mean, but im sorry dude..i didnt mean it too..that probably isnt good though, but maybe its not over yet, just wait and see how the date goes, or whatever you want to call it, thatll give you a better stand point, who knows something really good might happen
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Yeah I as afraid of that. I was talking with my other friend and he said that was probably the reason. He then said that she might just not be wanting to get in a relationship with me because she thinks that I can't have one, but he told me that the chances were slim to none. Let's say that our social outing is just like when friends hang out, talking, laughing blah, what then? Also, should I not ask her out now because she didn't want to ruin our friendship? This is really scewing with me..
I hate to say it but as a girl...I kinda use that as a nice ummm lay off. It's a way of keeping the boyfriend/girlfriend thing out of the area. Things can always change of course but it seems she just wants to be friends. But...if you are really into her and want to be more than just a best friend your going to have to start acting like something more. FLIRT! Flirt your little heart out. be playful. Whatever it takes. If you wait any longer this "Friend Zone" may be permanent...
[=Tahoma]I used to have an open mind but my brains kept falling out.[/]
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