Alright, so I'm a junior in High School and right after last school year I started go out with this wonderful guy. Mind you, he had been the last person I could have ever seen myself go out with! But after hanging out a few times I really, really liked him and he eventually asked me out on June 21st! We hung out A LOT! He became one of my bests friends; I could tell him ANYTHING and I would never feel awkward with him or anything (like I had with previous, but not as serious, boyfriends). He liked me a lot too and eventually said that he loved me after only a month (which I knew was a little too soon). I just cannot put into words what we had! It was amazing! We were at each others' houses every other day pretty much and it NEVER got boring at all. I went on vacation at the beginning of July and wouldn't come back until pretty much the end of July and all we could do was talk to each other using "snail mail". I sent him something EVERY DAY! And when I got back he gave me a stuffed animal and two dozen roses. Everything was going fine until I went him father's birthday party ad he broke up with me there. I, naturally, began crying and he eventually cried too and said he made a big mistake, etc. He said he thought he didn't care for me anymore, but he actually still did. After that we were fine until he told me that he'd like more space between us. I told him that was fine. Two weeks later he began ignoring me. I asked him what the matter was during lunch one day in a text message because I couldn't talk on the phone at the time. And you know what he did? He broke up with me in a text message! I couldn't believe it! So time passed....and we weren't together. IT WAS TERRIBLE! (Sorry I'm sort of leaving some details out because it would take a little too long to write them) I really care for him a lot! I would do anything for him a heart beat.
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I hope that covers the main points of that. But lets see...I was pissed at him for a few weeks because of the fact he did it in a text message, but he eventually did apologize for that. And we're friends now. I wasn't pissed because he broke up with me, it was just he way it was done because I really want him to be happy even if that means me not being happy. But I asked one of his friends to kinda find out why he did all that...........So he said that he regretted the fact he did it in a text. The reason...now this is what I don't get. He said that he was scared at how serious it got so quickly. He was just afraid of how serious it got so fast and he thought that he'd get me pregnant (NOT gonna happen). He said he thought he would because of two of his dreams that he had, but I assured him that we wouldn't be doing anything like that. His friend told me that guys just FREAK when girls get serious or something. I just don't get that!!!! Because he still likes me and everything and we still talk....And he told his friend that I was the best girlfriend that hes had!
:/ So guys...tell me...or girls...is that normal? :confused: Or am I missing something. Haha, I hope I didn't leave a lot in my story out!
OH! One more thing that I need to mention! I was thinking about talking to him face-to-face about it and ask him. I want the whole truth and I want to see his reactions. Should I?
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man. im a girl and i can see where you're coming from, but most of the guys i know are more of the joking around guys who cant seem to get serious with anything so youre a really lucky gal to meet someone who will break up with you becuase he's worried for your sake. but it seems like that both of you guys still like eachother so why not talk to him about it and compromise about it from there so that you guys can still be together but since now that you both have notice how fast it was before, you guys can slow it down a bit?
idk, it'd probably be better if ferris or chris or some other guy answer this, but man, you're still lucky to had met him. lol. i envy you.
capitalization? who the heck came up with this horrible rule?!
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Hahaha, thank you! :) I did consider myself to be luckiest girl on earth and I thanked God daily for Him giving to me such a precious gift. I think I will talk to him. It'll at least put me at ease to hear it from him and maybe he'll tell me more stuff than what his friend told me! Thank you! :)
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OH! And trust me, it'll happen to you! And it'll be the most unexpected person most of the time! :] It's the best that way: getting what you never dreamed or hoped to have! It truly is wondrous! The best of luck to you! Many blessings!
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communication is good, and if it were me, I'd want to know too. I currently have a boyfriend similar to yours - sweet, caring, comfortable - and I know I would be a mess if he broke it off with me.
Also, there might be something deeper that you don't know. Granted it might be nothing, but there might be an issue with him at home. I know if my bf were closer to where we could see each other a lot, I wouldn't want him around most of my family for various reasons, and he wouldn't want me to be around his for other reasons. It took awhile for both of us to talk about it too.
Again, this may not be it at all, so take it with a grain of salt. I'm just putting forth the possibility that there may be some outside influence he's trying to keep you from. Or he could just feel it's going to fast. If that's really it, then like bassoonist said, you might be able to take it slower. Or perhaps even take a break for a bit and try again later.
Best of luck to you!
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totally agree with pianogirl.
and i agree scathach, it usually is, but there's joy in waiting too.
capitalization? who the heck came up with this horrible rule?!
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OK, man time!
alot of guys don't like the idea of commitment. which makes sence when you consider that the guys you are dating are still in high school. this guy sounds like a bit of a crack monkey in so much as that he is believing dreams about getting you pregnant. does he, possibly, not understand how sex works?
either way, i think you should talk to him because it sunds like you both cared for each other very much and, other than the dream bit, he sounds like a righteous dude.
all in all, it's just another brick in the wall...
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well i pretty much agree with Ferris, especially about the crack monkey part.
however i thought that when scatach said the dude was having dreams, you meant he wanted to have sex and you were never gonna do that. ipso facto break up in his mind.
commitment does scare us guys off, but it was probably the no sex that really freaked him out. this could be completely wrong, but thats how i interpreted what you said
Ah! Thank you so much guys! :] Lets see...
Pianogirl, I don't think that's it because I know his whole family really well and we get along really well too. Same for mine, I'm an only child so all there's to worry bout is my parents and there isn't any worry there! :) But thank you, I totally get what you're saying! Many blessings to you and your boyfriend!! :]
Ferris, HAHAHAHAHAHA! I just have to laugh at that! XD And I totally agree! I thought it was a pretty laaaaaame idea myself. The commitment thing is what initially came to mind...you're probably right! Thank you so much! :)
Alfredo, once again...I agree with the commitment, but I wasn't the sex because we both agreed (him being the one who brought it up) that we wont have sex. I mean there's lots of other things you can do besides that. I dunno....it could be, but I really don't think it is! :) Thank you!
Hmm...Okay so overall thank you! You given me a lot to wrap my heaqd around. I'm going to talk to him about it. I'm just going to have to figure out when! :) Thank ya'll!!
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AP English
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Don't worry about the sex vs. no sex thing. If the time's not right, the time's not right. Enough said. Being physical is an important part of any relationship, but you have to abide by your own limits.
With that part out of the way, it sounds like you guys moved to quickly. If you want to give things another shot, start them off slow. It is possible that, while he still cares about you deeply, he's just getting "too much of a good thing." I mean, if you eat french fries every day for a month, you're going to be tired of french fries for a while. It's the same concept. One of the most important part's of an relationship is that feeling you get when the other person's not around. That feeling of almost emptiness and needing. That feeling just makes the times your together that much more special.