So im having a confidence (not exactly the word im looking for but...close enough) dilema of sorts and i just want some outside opinions on it- to you know let me know if im just freakin out like a girl typically would or if im on to something. So not trying to pat myself on the back or anything but i'd like to think that im a pretty cool girlfriend, im not the jealous type at ALL, i completly trust him with any of his girl friends or mine, i dont nag him for stupid things, His two best friends and i get along great ( they totally treat me like one of the guys- i have a very male sense of humor and we just understand eachother...) im not clingy or possesive, im mean i just trust him and love him. But lately i've been feeling like im starting to slide down on the awesome meter and slip dangerously close to "acting like a total girl".
Im overthinking so many of ourconversations and reading way too much into them and, then i made a joke about being jealous of my a scene in our play where he basically makesout with and then fools around with my best friend whos practically my sister ( who happens to be his ex btw, if that shows you at all how i think) which i think wasnt the nest idea cause my friend told me afterwards that he told her he felt terrible like he had really just cheated on me.... Gah! i just dont know what to think and i want to go back to being the amazingly cool understand girlfriend and not "the annoying overanalyzing girl."
can you tell im a little worse for the wear? i just need to vent and i want to hear what you guys think...
"Its not easy to be a poet here. Yet I sing. We Sing' - The Exhonerated
Well, first off, that's cool that you all get along so well. Hmm As for the play, all I can tell you is what I've told my friends who are in drama and have to make out with someone who isn't their girlfriend/boyfriend: it's all pretend. What happens on stage is only that; it happens on stage and is left on stage. It is one of the faults of the theater. I would tell him that you were only joking and that you do trust him and that you understand that it's just acting. As for how you can "deal" with it (I'm not sure if that's the right work), tell yourself that it is just acting and that YOU'RE the one he loves. Or, since she's your best friend, think of it like he's getting tips from her. :) Several of my friends used that one so that they would be okay with the same problem. But from what you said, I would say you have nothing to worry about. He sounds like the perfect boyfriend.
Just out of curiosity, what play is it?
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Okay, I've had a few similar issues with my bf. He's so sweet, but he just doesn't get it when I tease him about hanging out with other girls. Well, didn't. I do it now sometimes joking about how I'm jealous of how he spends time with his ex or other friends instead of me, but he gets it now that if he's happy, I'm happy. You just have to explain it to him and watch the jokes for awhile until he fully understands that you're cool with him hanging around with other people and performing with them, whatever the role may call for.
And yes, do tell about the play!
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lol well it was a musical called "Into the woods" and it was several fairytales combined into one big warped mega story, i was the Narrator, My BF was Cinderella's very unfaithful yet charming prince, and my best friend was the Bakers Wife. It was a great show, (If you guys want to know more i'll post in another thread i had for acting)
But i guess i should have been more clear in my orignal post- I have been an actor since i was 5 years old i have [B]absolutly no problem [/B]with him kissing another girl or doing anything with another girl onstage because- its acting- and truth be told i wouldnt have any problems doing anything with someone else (ONLY on stage) because it's not real- its in the name of art. That was just one incident in a couple that morphed into this other problem
My Actual "problem" for better lack of a word is that i just feel like i have gone from this pretty cool girlfriend to all the sudden being someone that he has to watch what he says around, cause i might take it the wrong way or for being to clingy, which as i said in my original post i absolutly hate, because i dont general act or think like your typical girl... (hence why i get along with the guys so well) and all the sudden i have reverted to "annoying girl" and i just dont know why or if its me.... gah!
"Its not easy to be a poet here. Yet I sing. We Sing' - The Exhonerated
Just relax. Talk with him about it- maybe not like a "we need to talk" moment but probably more like a "you know it's cool for you to do this, right?" kinda moment. He might be cautious for a bit, but he's probably a sweet guy who cares a lot about you, so you can't blame him too much. Reassure him some and he'll come back around.
And it sounds like a fun play. Best of luck with it!
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Yeah those we need to talk moments are never good... It sounds really stupid i know- it wasnt even a fight it was just a sore point and i mean we talked alot about it and its great now (wow that took way longer than i thought it would to explain and its so random) and he is a really sweet guy, he's amazing actually and ive had my share of bad boyfriends and he is just the best guy anyone could hope for... (and he's handsome too lol just look at a pic (Either film noir friday post or pics post i think)... i guess im just being stupid about this cause i just dont want to lose him ya know? I honestly am so afraid of screwing it up ( i have been know to do that) that when things arent as amazing as they normally are i start to doubt myself and think im going to do something stupid....
"Its not easy to be a poet here. Yet I sing. We Sing' - The Exhonerated
I can understand where you're coming from. My bf has has his great many shares of bad relationships and he's the same way. He's starting to see now that he can't scare me away and that I forgive easily.
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you know thats exactly what he said to me, when i talked to him - and we've been through some really difficult things in the past year. Its good to know there are people like you and my Bf out there to look out for people like me and your Bf, to make sure we dont do really stupid stuff..or atleast help us through when we do. How long have you been with your boyfriend? if you dont mind me asking
"Its not easy to be a poet here. Yet I sing. We Sing' - The Exhonerated
I've been with him since....Septemberish lol. It's kinda weird- we just said one day "I kinda like you" "well, I kinda like you too" "really? that's great" "yeah, it really is" and I don't really remember when we said it lol. You're just lucky you found a guy so close, we're on opposite ends of the country- haven't seen each other since we decided that we liked each other.
And no, I don't mind :p
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wow, thats great! lol me and my bf were together for a bout a month last year and then over summer just lost track of eachother and then this year during rehersal for one of our shows we decided to take a walk and we were just talking and then the next thing you know he just grabs me and kisses me like mad and we've been inseperable ever since for a little over 6mtns... But where we want to go to college, i want to go to paris and he wants to go redding in england... i dont know how we would do it- especially if one of us doesnt get in (most likely me cause his grandfather is dean of admissions at redding) then we would be a whole ocean and several countries away... So i totally applaude you for being cross country. He was gone for 10days and i was going mad, i dont know how i would fare going months... Im impressed by you guys, i really am
"Its not easy to be a poet here. Yet I sing. We Sing' - The Exhonerated
Instant messengers, webcams, and skype phone calls help greatly ^^.
I've never even kissed him, which makes me kinda sad, but we get by.
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