hey guys,
my names joe and im 17. Ive been dating the same girl since sixth grade (over five and a half years) and it was easily the best relationship imaginable. She was gorgeous and such a great person. Well, about five months ago Amie (my gf) was in a car crash with a drunk driver and she was takein to the hospital. Later that night she died in my arms. Ever since then ive been a complete mess and i seriously just dont know how to deal with it. It seemed like it was getting better for the past few weeks but now it seems worse than ever. I'm having reprecussions again and nightmares, reliving that night, again. I loved her more than my own life and it just killed me to sit there and watch her slowly die. Its been getting increasingly harder to hold on, i thought it would get better with time but it hasnt.......I just wondered if anyone has any advise on how i should deal with this....any help would be greatly appreciated (and dont say shrink, that aint an option)......Thanx :(
dealing with things
December 7, 2005 - 23:31
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dealing with things
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That has got to be the saddest story I've ever heard. I'm so sorry for your loss. I do have some advice for you though. Obviously you're against going to a psychiatrist, but you should find someone to talk to. It should be someone who you trust, someone who won't judge you too much, and it would be nice to have someone who could help you understand what you're dreaming and feeling. I know that you must be feeling lots of emotions all at the same time. I suspect that the stress of this time of year has brought back your dreams. You may want to consider a Guidence Counsellor at your school, or a peer mediator, or (most likely) a close friend. Another thing that may help is to write down your feelings. I know it sounds, well, girlish, but it can really help to get your feelings down in writing.
I hope that you start getting better soon :o .
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If you are tormented with nightmares, try exercising, or reading before you go to bed, or until you fall asleep (if you go to bed exhausted you tend to have no dreams). I am truly sorry for you loss, I have a loved one too who I have been dating for 2+ years, I could never imagine such a loss. Keep her memories close, and let them slowly fade, I agree with the other advice, put your feelings into words. Honor her memory, but if you remember that she loved you, do nothing rash. Shrinks never work (I know I saw one after the "love of my life" raped me...they just made me look at idiotic ink blots). If you wish to cherish her memories, I suggest the pillowcase/pillow (they tend to smell the most like the person), as well as her perfume or something of the sort.
Time is really the best medicine. Try and occupy your mind with other things so that it doesn't become overwhelming. Pick up another hobby, play video games, read books, and just piece your life together.
yea, i started writing in a notebook right after she died, just like what i was feeling or thinking at the time. i even wrote down word for word the last things we said to each other.....i still cant go back and read that stuff. as for the pillowcase/pillow thing you're talking bout im not quite clear about what you mean by that...like you want me to keep her pillow with me or something......?.....
Not all shrinks are quacks. My grandfather happens to be a very effective psycologist.
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"I refuse to prove that I exist," says God, "for proof denies faith, and without faith I am nothing."
"But," say Man, "the Babel fish is a dead giveaway, isn't it? It could not have evolved by chance. It
its not that, i just cant afford one
I'd agree with reading, and suggest:
Tuesday's With Morrie and The ten people you meet in heaven by Mitch Albom, and Fire in the Heart,By Deepak Chopra
I am not going through what you're going through what you are but they still helped with a lot of stuff in my time of need.