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just friends...

So I have been friends with the girl that I like basically since the day I met her.

And I know that she has the same feelings for me. And has had those feelings for a while.

But about a month ago, we both agreed that we should just stay really close friends and not date-to not ruin our friendship.

Recently, my ex girlfriend has been causing a lot of trouble and the girl that I like has been helping me through a lot of it. And the girl I like also (some how) got involved with my and my ex's problems.

But (again, somehow) the girl I like and myself have made it through all the crap that my ex threw at us.

By making it though all this crap, the girl I like and I have gotten a lot closer. But here is my problem....

I feel like the girl that I like and me are ready to date. And I am pretty sure that she feels the same way. I still dont want to risk our friendship though. And at the level of friendship that we currently have, me and her flirt with each other all the time, and we both know that we can do anything with the other, just messing around.

So should I ask her out?

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I have to say go ahead and ask her if you like her. This coule make things akward for a bit, but if you guys are this close of friends, it shouldn't matter in the long run.

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i agree with the dude above me

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Im just up really late and bored but yea make a move. I did and our friendship is still strong. Altough I occasionally flirt with her. Just speakin my mind and not doing hmwk.....*sigh*

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Explain everything to her...ill bet shell agree cuz u guys have been through alot and if ur that closee then its not gonna be much different...:P

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I'm sure everything will be fine if you're as close as you say. I think you're lucky that you have someone that you care about so much and who cares about you as well. The only way your friendship could be hurt is if you guys break up on bad terms, and I think that seeing as you've gone through so much together, and you seem like a nice enough guy, you won't have that problem. I say go for it.

Plus, if you don't, you might regret it later. You'll never know unless you try! =)

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I agree with the person above.

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well, I've been through this--kinda, let's see:
I got together with one of my best friends. He was amazing. Seriously, this guy was my first kiss...(not to mention by band director's stepson...). But after like a month we broke up b/c he said it felt "weird" dating his friend. He explained more to me later, he thought that our relationship was immature and it was too much too soon for me. We were still great friends after breaking up and we would always flirt. Over that next summer I decided that I really wanted to get back together with him. I finally got the courage to ask who he was sitting with on the bus to the football game that Friday. He said "my girlfriend"....I almost puked right there. Here was probably the greatest guy ever telling me that he had a girlfriend the day before I planned to ask him out. Well, I was crushed, but not as much as I was when I found out WHO his girlfriend was; she was the girl that flirted around with EVERY guy and "does favors, no questions asked"---I swear, those were her words. So it hurt, a lot. Eventually she figured out that we had been together the previous year and then started accusing me of trying to steal him away from her...I really didn't want to argue with her so he and I just ignored each other while they were together. SURPRISE! My AP chem class meets every day and I found out on the first day that he was in that class with me. He came in a sat by me and has ever since. We've talked a lot this year and he told me that if he had known that I wanted to get back together he would've never asked her out...I was touched, but cautious. I couldn't really do anything at the time b/c they were still together...actually I had a class with her too, every other day, right before I saw him....then, he broke up with her, she begged for him to take her back, but he wouldn't...I still like him and he still knows it. He is single right now, should I go for it? again?

As far as your predicament, I have experience in dating friends and if things don't work out they usually make the friendship a lot stronger.... :)

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You know what, AICE kid? I say go for it. It's something you want, and you should always go for what you want. Just because some dumb broad with a bad rep might try to get in your way, doesn't mean you should stand back and let her. I think that it's not much of a risk if you really think it's worth it. Plus, he seems to still care about you. Don't ever let stupid drama get in the way of what you really, truly want =)

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ask her out!
you guys could be more than just friends
and you dont even know because you guys are keeping your relationship from it
and if it doesnt work out be friends
im sure that as close as you guys are
you will be able to!
luck by the way
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ask her out! i was friends with this girl for a while and we went out, and it didnt really work out and for a day or two things were awkward, but you know what? we got over, very soon afterward we were able to go back to being friends and our friendship was really strong for a long time. the only reason its not today is because i had to move. but thats not the point, lol. just do it.

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